These vows will work, because science.
Do you think having a marriage that’s empirically proven to work would be something you would try? Many couples have started to opt for vows in their weddings that aren’t just the natural ones we have all heard, but rather ones that science has proven lead to longer/healthier relationships. Weddings are very significant events in people’s lives, but most people don’t really know why that is. It may simply be celebrating a big day, recognizing what the couple has built within their relationship, but it’s also a day that’s oriented towards the future. Couples make vows in front of their closest family and friends, and that is why researchers believe they have such emotional impact.
Recently, a social psychologist by the name of Samantha Joel, who studies romantic relationships, was about to get married, so she did what anyone in her position would have thought to do. She crafted vows that were scientifically proven to be the best ones, which we listed below.
- “I promise to respect, admire and appreciate you for who you are, as well as for the person you wish to become.”
- “I promise to support and protect your freedom, because although our lives are intertwined, your choices are still yours alone.”
- I promise to seek a deep understanding of your wishes, your desires, your fears, and your dreams.”
- “I promise to always strive to meet your needs, not out of obligation, but because it delights me to see you happy.”
- “I promise to be there for you when you need me, whenever you need me.”
- “I promise to nurture your goals and ambitions; to support you through misfortune, and to celebrate your triumphs.”
- “I promise to keep our lives exciting, adventurous, and full of passion.”
- “I promise to persevere when times get tough, knowing that any challenges we might face, we will conquer them together.”
- “I promise to treat you with compassion rather than fairness, because we are a team, now and for always.”
- “I promise to show you, every day, that I know exactly how lucky I am to have you in my life.”
Let us know what you think about these. Would you try it? We would love to hear your thoughts.