Gabrielle Union has been very open and honest about her journey of self-love. For the past few years, the actress has been doing nothing but spreading positive messages to women. She took it upon herself to share the lessons learned with her husband, Dwayne Wade and their family. In a recent interview with Refinery29, Union spoke upon teaching her stepsons about valuing black women, no matter if they’re light or dark skinned.

Union had a conversation with her boys regarding who they were crushing on in school, asking to see their Instagrams and noticed the girls were very similar looking.

“Literally, probably about 10 girls I looked at had the same light skin, curly hair, tiny waist, butt, boobs – it was the same girl over and over again. So I asked them to show me the most beautiful chocolate sister they’ve seen. They say there are none. I was like, ‘Why do they get exed out so fast? What is happening in your brain that is causing you to look at these women through a prism that is distorting their actual selves?”

She then shared with them the message that a woman should not just be attractive because she’s a public figure.

“They don’t see the beauty unless it comes from an actress or a supermodel or a video vixen. They have to have somebody else tell them that a chocolate woman is attractive for them to believe it.”

Read the full interview here.