Whew, chile the mess. Megachurch Pastor John Gray is making headlines again and this time it’s for seemingly admitting to cheating on his wife of eight years, Aventar Gray. In a sermon posted on Youtube, Gray says that no one knew what was happening with him and his wife behind closed doors.

“We had to keep smiling because even though we were struggling,” Gray reveals. “Even though I was failing as a husband, I was already in front of the people and the people can’t really receive my brokenness because where do leaders go when they belled? So I had to bleed alone. And what’s strange is I traveled the whole world and the Holy Ghost showed up and people got saved me and my wife just kept smiling and nobody knew we were getting ready to get a divorce. Because as long as I kept producing, nobody cared what was happening at home.”

He then added “I started listening to the wrong voices and let some people get too close. She found out and she set it off just like a good wife should.”

Aventer then jumped in to “hold her man down” by defending her husband by blaming the devil for his choices,

“And then I prayed for them and him and then the devil loses,” she said. “Because what’s not going to happen is you tell me that I’m going to lose my purpose because someone whispered to a 16-year old John. The devil is a lie. I’m standing with my husband and you can go back to the pits of hell where you came from. Was I upset? Yes. Was I heartbroken? Yes But you better learn how to get in there for the- what’s the vows? Better and worst shows up you don’t run away.”

Last month for their eighth anniversary, John gifted his wife a $200,000 Lamborghini Urus with his money, not the church’s money. However, it has been alleged that Gray fathered a child outside his marriage making the Lamborghini is an “I’m Sorry” gift.

In typical fashion, Aventer took to Instagram where she expressed her feelings by saying she is at peace with what is being displayed in the public eye, “I’m so in love with 2019 already. Let the Lord do it for you. Yeah, That’s it. Where is your peace? I have mine. We should want the peace of God more than anything else in life.”

All of this brings up the age old question, would you divorce your spouse just because they cheated on you or do you forgive them because of the vows you took before God?