The question floating around since the Lifetime’s Surviving R. Kelly documentary is a valid one. People simply are asking, “How come these women let him do all of this to them?”
Asante McGee shared how a young woman, who believed that she was in love with the man, could be duped into this seemingly hypnotic love trance. But she also shared that there were signs that pointed to pedophilia and issues around control. McGee wrote how it all happened for her on the popular Think section of NBCnews.com.
One of the first things that she noted was that there were two different people living in that man’s body. One was R. Kelly and the other one was Robert. She noted that she ran away from Robert.
Robert apparently was the creep.
In her opinion, R. Kelly was the hero. She said, “He wants to protect me, so when he told me not to speak to people about coming to see him, because they might try to attack me, I believed him.” To drive this home, Kelly told her that one of his girls not only got beat up by an Uber driver but “they” also put a gun to her head. She does not believe that story anymore, acknowledging that he wanted to “isolate” her and not “protect” her.
McGee also reveals that at first, she had no ideas about his alleged affection for minors.”I was not a teenager, I was nowhere near a teenager.” Despite him wanting her to speak to him in a baby voice.
“He would tell me what to say, I would repeat it and he would keep telling me ‘No. Do it different, do it a little softer,” until I got to the voice that he wanted. I thought it was odd, but then I thought that maybe it was just a role play for him.
She later reveals that she “started to get concerned,” when the young looking girl was sitting on his lap at a concert in 2015, was later found out to be 17 years old.
She believes that she was naive and in love. So much in love by his charming demeanor that she forgot that he had her once sit in a van for eight hours, waiting to go to the studio with him.
What stressed her out more than finding out about the young girl, was the way he had all the girls tattling on each there. One girl clocked her during a concert (if she danced, did she know all of his songs, etc.). According to her account, she couldn’t even use the phone without them saying something.
Ultimately, McGee learned to love herself as a woman and understand her value. That’s what saved her.