Today, it’s easy to get the wrong idea of someone you’re dealing with. Watch out for the signs!
You will always have that dude that randomly jumps into your radar and says, what you think are, all the right things. You inadvertently flirt, exchange comments regularly on Instagram and like each other’s pictures, until he finally DMs you and you exchange numbers. Most times, as women, we tend to analyze the Instagram feed to kind of get a feel of this “too good to be true” dude we’re sort of considering, however, there are several things we should look out for.
- First off, if he doesn’t show any concern in regards to what you do, what you like, personal things etc…. Then odds are, he doesn’t care about any of that. Men that praise themselves and talk about themselves constantly are annoying as hell, especially when they don’t really make an effort to get to know about you. If time keeps passing and he still isn’t asking, girl please keep it moving. A man who is really interested in you will try to find relateable topics of discussion so that engaging in good conversation comes naturally. If he wants something deeper than just sex, he will make it his business to find out your interests.
- If you are the one who is making the most time and scheduling your life around him, honey, something is definitely off. It shouldn’t be that way, especially if he’s the one that initiated contact with you to begin with. The effort should be equal and he should be just as excited to see you as you are to see him.
- The phone thing…. It’s quite rude to text, stroll through apps, post on social media and constantly check your phone while you’re spending time with a person of interest. If he does it and it bothers you, you’re competing for attention and that isn’t such a good feeling. Ladies, you deserve someone who appreciates your company, not just when it’s time to be intimate.
- Lastly, for this post, at least, there are still many “grown men” who take pride in knowing they have you. The chase is something they love, once he has you though, the little effort fades and you become another short chapter in his book.
These are just a few things that I’ve observed, analyzed, and researched a little. As a woman, I’ve also experienced them, lol. The best thing to do is to be upfront about everything. Not necessarily demanding certain things but it’s best to converse about things that matter and what you’re currently looking for, whether it be serious or not.
Don’t get caught out there and KNOW YOUR WORTH!