A video is going viral of rapper Dream Doll and her friends at a party in Texas and an unknown girl can be seen getting tossed in the pool against her will. This raises the question, is it ok to disrespect black women?
Memorial Day weekend saw many folks stepping out to finally enjoy the weather after being quarantined for months. Cabin fever was at an all time high and everyone wanted to get a break from being inside. In a video circulating the internet, a black girl fully dressed with hair and makeup can be seen fighting off three men as she is dragged against her towards the pool. Fighting and kicking for them to stop, the men ignore her pleas and overpower her tossing her into the pool while others laugh.
While the act itself was horrendous and mean, the comments were even worst.
‘Don’t go to a pool party if you don’t want to get wet….’ ‘They are friends that’s how they play…”Everyone got thrown in the pool…”It’s not that serious…’
But when is a woman saying ‘no’ considered serious? What if she couldn’t swim? What if she had her menstruation? Contacts? Is there anything she could have screamed to make them stop the act? No, because they didn’t feel the need to. I felt secondhand embarrassment because as a black woman myself, I’m familiar with the nonchalant attitude people take when something happens to one of us. The argument that ‘they were friends’ is just as bad because women have become conditioned to being disrespected and tricked into thinking poor treatment is ok. It doesn’t matter who was in the video, the act was wrong and insensitive. Our bodies belong to us.
Never forget the history of black women being disrespected in hip hop. Rapper Yungberg let the world know how he felt about dark women and even called himself racist.
“I’m kinda racist … I don’t like dark butts …. You know how some women prefer light skin men or dark skin men. It’s rare that I do dark butts – that’s what I call dark-skinned women … I [don’t date women] darker than me. I love the pool test. If you can jump in the pool exactly like you are and you don’t come out looking better than you looked before going in the pool – then that’s not a good look. Any woman that uses brown gel to set down her baby hair is not poppin’!!!”
This immature, ‘Jim Crow’ way of thinking has to be discussed. Black women are creators and mothers of the earth. Nourishing, loving and bold with unmatched strength. Lift your queens instead of embarrassing them.
But serious question, why so much disrespect towards black women? Watch the video below.
Who else misses the 90’s? Shout out to Arrested Development for teaching the youth how to protect our queens.