On June 30, 1995, the world lost one of the most emotionally resonant and vocally gifted soul singers of her generation. Phyllis Hyman, known for her rich contralto, commanding stage presence, and deeply personal lyrics, died by suicide just hours before she was set to perform at the Apollo Theater. She was only 45 years old.
Born in Philadelphia and raised in Pittsburgh, Hyman’s musical journey began in the 1970s, where she quickly became a standout in the jazz, R&B, and soul scenes. Her voice, sultry yet powerful, was a perfect match for songs that required vulnerability and strength in equal measure. After catching the attention of music industry heavyweight Norman Connors, she soared to prominence with her rendition of “Betcha by Golly Wow,” a remake of The Stylistics’ classic, which showcased her unmistakable tone and presence.
Hyman’s self-titled debut album in 1977 introduced the world to a rare talent. With hits like “You Know How to Love Me,” “Living All Alone,” and “Somewhere in My Lifetime,” she carved a space for herself as a leading voice in sophisticated, emotionally mature R&B. Her songs often spoke to heartache, longing, and self-reflection. Fans gravitated to her because she didn’t sugarcoat life’s struggles. She sang through them.
Despite her success, Hyman battled intensely with depression and bipolar disorder, compounded by industry pressures, loneliness, and personal turmoil. Those close to her spoke of a woman who gave everything to her art, even when she had little left to give to herself. Her final album, I Refuse to Be Lonely, released posthumously in 1995, felt like a prophetic farewell; its themes of emotional exhaustion and quiet despair hit especially hard in retrospect.
On the day of her passing, she reportedly left a note that said, “I’m tired. I’m tired. Those of you that I love know who you are. May God bless you.” Her death shocked the music community, and for many, it was a painful reminder of the silent struggles that often sit behind the brightest lights.
Phyllis Hyman’s legacy remains intact, her voice still sends chills, and her music continues to speak to those navigating the complexities of love, life, and self-worth. 30 years later, her artistry lives on, not just in playlists and vinyl collections, but in the hearts of fans who felt every note she ever sang.